Sunday, October 6, 2013

On My Mind...

This isn't really anything to do with anything.  It's something that is really bugging me and for some reason I can't seem to get over it.  Where I live is very isolated.  I live on a military installation in the middle of nowhere, California.

These wives out here are vicious.  If you do ANYthing that someone doesn't like for any reason at all, you will be publicly shamed on Facebook for the whole military post to see.  And sometimes for the whole country, depending on what you did that so offended someone.

The thing you could have done could be as simple as being overweight, wearing a skirt that someone deems "ugly," wearing a shirt that has a cartoon character on it, or even having a bad haircut.  These women will take a picture of you, post it on Facebook, and bully you relentlessly.  They just don't care. Maybe it's just me, but I don't get it.

Why treat people like that?  What if it were your picture up there?  Why would you do that?

This has had me in tears for about an hour now because of a post that was put on a Facebook "wives' network" for this particular installation.  The post was a picture of the cork board in the laundromat that had a woman's thong pinned to it with a note that said basically, "This isn't my wife's, she's a whale, thanks for ruining my chance at sex for the next year."  That's not it exactly, but you get the idea.  The comments on the picture were horrendous.  Women were tearing the "whale" apart without having ever met her or even knowing anything about her, other than what the husband wrote.

I have struggled with my weight all my life.  At the beginning of 2012, I was 212 pounds.  I'm only 5'1.  I know it's not "pretty" to be overweight, but I've never thought myself unattractive.  Until I came here, that is.  Ever since moving to this place I'm constantly looking over my shoulder and trying my hardest to "conform" to what these women's standards are.  I was bullied in high school and I am so afraid of being bullied again just because I don't fit these women's molds.

I've lost 52 pounds and am STILL considered obese.  At 160 pounds, I'm 45 pounds overweight for my height.

The post wasn't about me, but somehow I feel like it could have been.


  1. Some people never grow up. Nobody's perfect, and nobody will ever be perfect! I'd say try not to worry about what other people think, but I know that's really tricky. As for being overweight note being 'pretty' - anyone can be attractive, regardless of their size, and it should be what's on the inside that counts. I'd try to worry less about what they think, and trying to fit in, and instead focus on bringing up your kids to appreciate inner beauty and not be as shallow as the people at the military installation.

    Wow, I'm just full of cliches in this post... apologies!

    1. Thank you, it was just one of those things that brought me back to high school...though, maybe that's where their mindset is for them to say those things behind the anonymity of the internet.